After we stop pretending….

If you look at this post’s title and wonder “after we stop pretending” about what? I’ll get to that shortly. It’s a prickly subject and it will make a lot of people very uncomfortable. Others won’t feel any discomfort or shame simply because they (a) don’t understand the problem or (b) just don’t give a shit. But please bear with me and I’ll do my best to explain.

Have you ever started on something and it leads to something else and that leads to somewhere else, or an idea, or pattern of thought that hadn’t occurred to you? That’s kind of how I got here….to the After We Stop Pretending thing…and it’s all my wife’s fault. Let me explain.

She, like me, has become very disenchanted by the direction that modern society is going in. Being connected to Wifi, the world wide web, to our phones, to technology, to over consumption of stuff….but completely disconnected from one another, from society, from community and most of all from nature. However, unlike me – I who am content to moan and bitch about how, as a species, we’ve lost our way and how terrible this disconnect with nature is – my wife tends to look deeper into the problem and to try to find out if it can be solved. It was her search to find ways of disconnecting from technology and reconnecting with nature that brought her to Mark Boyle – an Irishman, writer, environmentalist, free thinker and freeconomist – who was formerly as entrenched in the system as the rest of us, having trained as an economist.

Mark Boyle has written a book, (actually he’s written a few books…..but this one in particular was one my wife was drawn to), called “The Moneyless Man”. Which is about how he took a year off from the system – from modern day life – from the economy – from consumerism – and lived for 12 months without money. (This actually became his way of life for a 3 year period, not one). Both to see if it could be done at all and also as a bit of a social experiment. He didn’t completely disconnect from technology though. He lived in a caravan on someone’s farm – he was allowed to park the caravan there in exchange for several days labour in the fields each month. On the caravan he had a solar panel with which he would charge his cell phone – on which he could only accept incoming calls as he had no money to make outgoing calls – and his laptop on which to write his book and a number of newspaper and magazine articles about his one year of living without money. He used a bike for transport and his food came partly from what he grew, partly from what he could forage in the wild and partly from dumpster diving behind the supermarket in the nearby town. His life for the next 12 months proved that necessity is indeed the mother of invention AND that living without money is a possibility.

This first book brought my wife to Boyle’s latest book called “The Way Home” – in which, 9 years on from his moneyless experiment, he has now built his own cabin, has realised that money is in some cases necessary – so has used the money from his book sales to purchase some land of his own – but has opened it up for anyone to live there. He has totally kicked modern technology into touch, even his phone and laptop have now gone. He still writes, but on recycled paper, with pens he finds here and there abandoned or lost by other people. His philosophy is one of paying it forward – he does things for people without expecting anything in return. There is no quid pro quo with Boyle.

It is this recent book, The Way Home (2019), that provides us with the next link. In The Way Home, Boyle refers to another writer by the name of Paul Kingsnorth. Kingsnorth is a former journalist, former editor of the Ecologist and according to his book is “A Recovering Environmentalist”. He is co founder of The Dark Mountain Project – a haven for writers who have seen through the veil of misinformation and fabrication of todays society, have come to the conclusion that the environmental movement has been hijacked by big business and political clout, decided that as things stand our disconnect from nature and our belief in the ideals of consumerism and the growth economy will push us not just to the brink of extinction, but over the brink. After the collapse of the system, perhaps people views about the sanity of the status quo will change. Only After We Stop Pretending can we make the changes in the way we live, that we should have made 40 years ago and get down to the work of re-growing a living culture.

Paul Kingsnorth used to be an environmentalist who put his body on the line to protest abuses of the environment. This video is about his current take on environmentalism, the life we live and why it’s too late for us to save the earth. It’s 49 minutes long but very interesting and has many truths.

Much is made these days about buzz words like “sustainability”. It used to be about sustaining and about not abusing nature or “natural resources”. These days the green movement is more about sustaining our life style by replacing one thing with it’s perceived “eco” counterpart. Environmentalism has become about sustainable development – which let’s face it is an oxymoron. Big business and the consumer lifestyle must, it seems, be the things that we place the priority on sustaining.

We have had countless feel good rallies in parks, marches to parliament to present petitions about protecting the environment, to which a smiling politician speaks a few empty promises about looking into the problem….probably involving committees and sub committees and flights overseas to see how other governments are handling the “environment problem”. But nothing happens to slow down the wheels of industry, of commerce, of commercialism.

We’ve had countless years of presentations of scientific evidence, discussions, debates and resolutions at the United Nations – yet still nothing has been done to slow the commercial machine – CO2 emissions continue to rise, pollution of the air and seas continues unabated, the rain forests continue to be cleared at alarming rates, the icecaps and glaciers continue to melt, sea level continues to rise as do average temperatures. But it’s all okay, none of this will affect the value of your shares on the stock exchange. Despite all the international agreements and environmental protection agencies we are destroying and polluting at an ever increasing rate. Changing your lightbulbs to energy efficient ones or banning single use plastic bags in supermarkets – whilst a step in the right direction – are not going to solve the problems we face and are in fact a case of too little, much too late.

The problem is a result of the system we follow, blindly. It’s not just about our consumption of, and our reliance on, fossil fuels that is the problem – it’s about the need to change the system that drives this consumption. This is the truth that everyone skirts around because of fear of how the abandoning of the growth economy system will affect their lifestyle.

The more disconnected we are from the source of our food, the less we value it and the more wasteful we become. If I can explain….go back to hunter gatherer time…Back when we were hunter gatherers we would spend a couple of hours a day sourcing our food from the forests and streams in the locality of our home base. We’d work along side and within the natural world – take as much as we needed from nature, eat it that day, fresh and then start the whole process again the next day. Rinse and repeat.

Then some bright spark had the idea of gathering some seeds from the bushes and plants that they found in nature and farming the ground close to home base to grow the food we needed right on our doorstep. Because we now take care in tending our food supply it takes us a little longer, but we are still very connected to our food and to nature. We value it and take only what we need. Jumping forward several hundred years we have for the most part separated ourselves from nature. We now live in cities and work 8 hour days, or more, in order to earn these tokens called money. With this money, we can pay for other people, sometimes on the other side of the planet to grow our food for us, pay for the mining and refining of the fossil fuel to power the trucks, ships and planes to bring it thousands of kilometres to a supermarket near us, where we can jump into our cars, using more fossil fuel, to drive to the supermarket to collect the food, (now mostly wrapped in plastic packaging on Styrofoam trays), that we once used to grow fresh on our own doorstep. We have no idea about how much petro-chemical sprays or other toxic materials have been used in the production of our food – which is now grown for shape and colour and shelf life rather than for any nutritional value. And then we waste a third of all the food we buy. This we call progress….and….civilisation. Is it just me, or can anyone else see that this just makes no sense at all?

Photo from Gloria’s Bits and Pieces on

And don’t even think to get me started on all the other rubbish that we import from around the world that is built only to last for a limited span of time. We have embraced the throw away society whole heartedly. We have fast food, fast fashions and even fast furnishings. All of which are tasteless and unfortunately get us addicted for more of the same. Anything to keep us spending that money and keep growing the economy. We are blasted by advertisements to buy more, update this, bigger that, new and improved…buy buy buy! Celebrity endorsements on TV, in magazines, on billboards, on the internet. We have so much stuff these days that off site storage is now a multi billion dollar business. It’s craziness. We haven’t just lost our way, we’re completely off the map. A byproduct of this greed for more stuff is that we need more land and more resources, to make the stuff, so we destroy nature, we wipe out hundreds of species weekly….WEEKLY…without even pausing to consider the consequences. We need to have the courage to change, to be responsible for our own actions and to do it quickly. Governments support the status quo – they are NOT going to save us if we don’t force them to.

It’s been said many times, so I’ll say it once more in the forlorn hope that this time someone will read it and say – yes that’s absolutely right, and make the change that we all need for our survival – “You can not have infinite growth on a finite planet”. So, yes we need to Stop Pretending that everything is just fine and dandy. The science says that we may have already passed the tipping point or are within a year or two of it. It’s frightening, but we need to accept that, to look despair right in the face and change the way we live. Let’s not make things any worse than they are already going to be. Is it only when money, credit and “the economy” are seen to be nothing more than the Emperors New Clothes of fairly tales and the system comes crashing down around our ears that most of us will finally admit that it was doomed to fail all along, and try to change the system to one of living with nature. We must realise that we are part of the natural world, not above it.

If anyone is interested in finding out more about the Dark Mountain Project, the link to their website is

Mark Boyle (the moneyless man) will be at Scotland’s Booktown – Wigtown – for their annual book festival, appearing on 4th October 2019. He’ll be talking about his latest book and his life without technology.

What does it mean to be human as boundaries between man and machine blur? Mark Boyle tried to find out, embracing life with no running water, car or electricity. The former business graduate, who once lived without money for three years, talks about his remarkable life on a Galway smallholding.

11 thoughts on “After we stop pretending….

    1. Thank you. Your photos are always very well taken. I am very much a live and let live sort of person, but as a species, human beings have trashed the planet and it makes me incredibly angry. Over a 40 plus year period, since my late teens, I have been part of protests, marches, rallies, petitions – fighting against nuclear weapons, pollution, genetic engineering of our foods, the obsession we have with consumerism etc. We raise our voices, make our votes, sign our names to things and hand them to the people in charge and NOTHING happens. We have more nukes and other weapons of mass destruction than ever, there’s more pollution than ever, genetic engineering of foods goes on regardless especially in 3rd world countries such as India where farmers, having invested in this new technology to find it’s all a con to squeeze more money from them each year for extra seeds because the GE seeds carry a terminator gene so you can’t collect your own seeds after each season, are committing suicide in their thousands….we are producing more products that “make life so much easier”…and create so much toxic waste. The natural world is disappearing at rapid rates. The governments don’t want to know. They only think as far ahead as their 3 or 4 year term in office. They put “economic growth” before common sense and common decency and I despair. I am not a flat earther or a Luddite….technology has its place but it should be along side the natural world, not instead of. Other than becoming what they have termed “Eco-Terrorists” what other options does it leave?

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      1. This is exactly how I feel.
        When someone tries to stand up to what they believe is right and killing the planet, they’re branded as a leftist, which has got nothing to do with it and a type of fear mongering. It’s the difference between right and wrong, and we see all around us that humanity is causing too much wrong.

        I read daily in the news how Greta Thunberg is a “puppet” of the left and it angers me as this teenager as the guts to stand up for what she believes and demonstrate what she believes in but the media aggressively attack her with vile comments. To me this proves, that she’s hitting her mark and the people at the top are concerned that their wealth bubble will be compromised.

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      2. Yes. Environmentalism, protecting nature should not be considered leftist politics. It is beyond politics. It also shows that Greta is having impact when the politicians resort to personal attacks on her. Can’t put down the message so we’ll attack the messenger. If, or I should say when the “wealth bubble” busts it’s not going to be a pleasant time for anyone. But it is necessary. Thank you so much for your comments.

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    1. Agreed John. But the governments don’t listen. Where’s Robin Hood when we need him to stand up for the people and for the “green woods”? I know that some people argue that climate change is not a man made issue, but a natural cycle. They could be right….BUT whether humans are responsible for climate change or not, we ARE responsible for trashing the planet, for pollution, for the destruction of the natural world in favour of manufactured crap. It has to stop…common sense dictates that…surely. Yet the powers that be keep pushing us toward the brink. I just don’t understand the mentality.

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      1. Yes. It’s complete insanity. We should be able to have them all committed based on their lack of action. It’s incredibly sad – these are the people that we elect to make the right decisions. They have let us all down. BUT we….by which I mean the general public also shy away from our individual responsibility to cut back on consuming, to make less waste and to do all in our power to save nature for future generations to enjoy, as you and I did in our youth. We’ve been corrupted by the system. I fear that massive public disobedience is the only option left. The consequences of which are quite frightening.

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  1. I agree with what you say here. I like to think we are seeing some change, so many people I know really working on their plastic use. We don’t run a car and like to feel smug about that, although I know it’s not really enough. I’ve read Boyle’s recent book but got quite annoyed with it, especially his treatment of his partner, which was most annoying because I was all ready to be fascinated by it!

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    1. We grow most of our own fruit and veg on our 1/4 acre section. We try to avoid buying anything wrapped in plastic but supermarkets being supermarkets its not easy. Our weekly rubbish usually fits in a 200 gram coffee packet so i guess we’re not doing too badly. Public transport in the town we live is very poor so we have to run a car. I’m not completely sold on climate change being a wholly man made thing. There have been heating and cooling of the planet many times over the millennia. But we as a species need to stop polluting air water and land and get out of the habit of compulsive shopping/the growth economy model. I do like Boyle’s “pay it forward” idea. Being kind to one another and doing random acts of kindness can’t be a bad thing. Thank you so much for your comments


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